Originally Posted by
2ndthyme
A few weeks ago, my daughter called to tell me she was being stalked on campus. And this older male student tried to corner her in a lab. She was so creeped out that she made a report to the deans office.
How many of us are wondering if she was over reacting? Are you identifying with the poor sap who just wanted to approach his crush and isn't suave enough to do it without sweaty awkwardness? Are you wondering if she was being an unapproachable b#tch?
What if all a young girl has, to protect against assault, is her gut instinct? Would you have advised her to be kind? Maybe slip away before she finds herself alone with him? Live carefully and secretly, and watch the shadows? wait until she's accosted and be physical and violent?
My daughter reported him, the college put a no contact order on him and changed her to a different lab time. Because what matters is her feeling safe, period.
Young women are raised and trained to mother everyone, to worry and empathize with the fragile egos and their future ability to have an erection.
Sounds harsh to you doesn't it? No really thats our lives, responsibility for making men feel ok when they screw up. My daughter did the right thing, she took care of HER needs to feel comfortable. She and no woman is responsible for how a man feels.